The Inexactness of Exactness
I am a perfectionist. I know I don’t always seem like one, but, if I’m going to do something, I like to be as perfect as possible at it. You know where I’m going with this. It’s impossible to be perfect when it comes to developing new habits. After all, what are the new habits supposed to be? How can I be good at it if I’m making it up myself?
So here’s the thing, I like weighing and counting and measuring my food, but it gets to be a chore after a while. Not that I’m really complaining, but then comes “going out to eat” and maybe going to a friend’s house, or something, and I’m supposed to estimate. Oh no! I just don’t know how to estimate. Then, it puts me into procrastination mode. It’s like a freezing up, so that I can’t deal with deciding how much of something I ate.
And then there are things like mashed potatoes. Now, I can look in the Weight Watcher’s book and see that a half cup is 3 points, which is easy. The other option is to weigh all the potatoes each time we make them at home, then be sure that whoever is making them (not usually me) measures exactly how much milk goes in, etc. THEN figure out how many half cup servings that is so I can figure out the points. Whew! I’ll bet you even got tired out just reading about it! We don’t use a recipe for such things. It will be different each time, so I would have to go through that exercise each time.
Then there are the “half points” or lack thereof. My favorite breakfast, which I’ll share soon, is actually 3.5 points, if I take the points value of each item and then add them together manually. Now, with e-tools, it’s 4 points. Not that it’s so bad, but there’s a certain satisfaction in having a half point left a the end of the day.
So, I have to get used the fact that there’s a certain amount of “figuring” that goes into it, and there’s no way for it to be perfect, by any means. I’m going to accept that, even if I don’t like it. I’ll get used to it some day!
Weigh Day #2
On weigh day this week I only showed a loss of .2 pounds! I was so surprised because I thought I had a gerat week and the scales at home showed I should have had a loss of a couple pounds, or so I thought, I even had the really super nice lady weigh me a second time.
Hmmm…. I’ll bet you think I’m lying to myself, at this point. I’m not sure. I do know that sodium intake, time of day , and lots of other factors some into play. One of the things that I believe caused problems in the past was my usual notion that I should try to make all changes at once. I think it was too much and I faltered quickly. This time, I’m going to try to make changes slowly, at my pace, not relying on anyone else’s idea of what that should be.
Some of the changes I made in the first week:
- I was careful to track my food.
- I paid more attention to taking a daily vitamin. I have always “tried” to take one everyday, but I got relaxed about it, like most.
- I continued to walk the dog around the block, which is a half mile, twice everyday.
Some folks might think that that wasn’t enough. For me, it’s hard to think about what I will eat and what I AM eating – it’s as if I have to concentrate on it every minute, really!
This week, I will add the following:
- I plan to add three additional walks around that half mile circle, sans dog (but probably with my sister – my wonderful supporter!).
- I have added Weight Watchers e-tools. What I noticed is that they have improved them quite a bit since a few years ago when I tried to use them.
I have also posted a new addition of “The Pants” (see below).
I would love to talk on Facebook, if you have the time. My page is http://facebook.com/obesityproject. I really want to work together to help make this a success for everyone!
Here’s the video:
The New “Weigh Day”
I’ve actually been coming to Weight Watchers for a few weeks. Today, though, I am coming for my official weigh-in to be a part of Dr. Oz’s Transformation Nation Challenge. Here’s the deal: go to any Weight Watcher’s location and get your initial weigh-in. Go on-line to Dr. Oz’s website and register for the program, and begin by answering a few health related questions and taking the seven steps. You’ll get your final weigh-in between April 2 and 9.
Everyone can take part. If you aren’t overweight, you just have to maintain a healthy Body Mass Index (BMI) and commit to a healthy lifestyle. Please visit Dr. Oz’s website for all the details.
So, I went on Thursday evening for my initial weigh-in. My official verified weight is 247.4 and my BMI is 39.9. FYI, normal is, I believe, up to about 25. 39.9 is considered “morbidly obese”. Well, I never actually considered myself to be “morbidly” anything. And in that sentence, you can see part of the problem.
Since I don’t suffer many of the health issues associated with obesity, and I feel well and healthy, I don’t see the problem in the same light as some others do. So, I have to find another way of looking at it.
I realized that I had, hanging on the back of my closet door, “The Pants”. These are the pants that I once bought as inspiration – ten years or more ago! You can tell that even pants don’t help. They never made me feel ashamed either, though. I just hung my bathrobe on the hook in front of them and – presto! You didn’t notice them that much.
Now, I’m coming out of the closet. Here’s the first video of “The Pants”. You can look forward to a new one each week until they fit – I promise.
Welcome to the NEW Obesity Project
It’s been a while since I started this website and blog. I always seem to start something with a lot of steam, and then loose motivation and interest after too short a time. I’ve decided to leave the old posts here and add to them. We’re giving it another try!
This time, I’m going to follow along with Dr. Oz and Weight Watcher’s with Transformation Nation. This is just such a great idea, that it blew my mind! There is so much obesity in this country, beginning with me. I’m willing to put everything I am and everything I know on the line if it will help one other person. This is really it. No more excuses as to why I don’t have time for healthier habits, or even for the few minutes it takes to update this blog.
Thanks in advance for following me on Facebook and for reading my blog… Here goes!!
We Love Curtis Markley!
Hey, let’s categorize this as “exercise” because this guy is HOT and this music would make for some fun fitness routines!
Have a listen to Curtice Markley’s song “All of The Above”. Thanks, Curtice, for being such a great guy and huge supporter. Curtice is a new and really FAST up and coming counrty rock singer.
Just have a listen to this super song – I think you’ll agree!
By the by, you can also friend Curtice on FaceBook!
If the song player does not show above for you to play the song, click HERE!
WeLove2Lose.com
I’ve blogged about this really terrific and supportive website, welove2lose.com. There’s no charge – and no catch – just become a member and enjoy warm support and camaraderie.
Welove2lose.com has discussion forums, photos and videos to inspire, awe and amaze you. I am totally inspired by the stories of success and trying that I find here.
Visit welove2lose.com – it’s really a nice place.
Incidentally, I know it’s not a real “weight loss program”, but it’s something that might help and that’s alright with me!
I Think I Need a Drink!
Just a few days ago I heard Nancy Snyderman of the Today Show talking about water and weight loss. Just about every eating program I have tried says to drink eight glasses of water per day. although there is usually a lack of clarity as to what constitutes “a glass”. A few break down and ask one to drink at least eight glasses of liquid per day.
Here’s the thing, according to the Mayo Clinic, (who I consider to be a trusted source) one needs 8 to 9 cups of water per day. A cup is eight ounces, so it’s less than you think. Just measure out eight ounces of water and you’ll see that it’s not that much. I usually drink a twelve ounce glass with every meal. (I love cold water, so I hope no one starts to attack the cold/room temperature subject any time soon!)
Now, back to Nancy. If you don’t want to click on her video clip, she is recommending one drink two glasses of water before each meal. I like this idea and it may really help some folks. With deference to Nancy, I think I will opt for drinking about six to eight ounces before my meal, and keep the glass during the meal, for a total of two (plus a bit). Some folks don’t like to drink while they eat – it’s totally a matter of preference.
A hidden water benefit for dieters…
Besides the fact that water replaces moisture and fluids that are expelled from our bodies each day, etcetra, I would like to point out one other thing regarding water that hits on an unpleasant by-product on The Plan, as well as many other eating regimens that might be higher in protein. That is – halitosis.
Drinking plenty of water might not be the “end all” when it come to fighting off bad breath, yet it helps to hydrate the mouth and wash away particles in the mouth that bacteria use to live on, the primary source of bad breath, or halitosis. One source I found recommended rinsing the mouth after meals, even if with water (sorry, but I won’t note sources if they’re only really pushing their mouthwash or something like that – it won’t help you loss weight!).
Bottom line:
If you’re freaking out about the water thing, just stop! There’s no need to worry since there’s a good chance you might be drinking almost that much already. If you don’t think you’re drinking enough, drop the sodas – even if they’re diet! Just don’t go “cold turkey” on yourself if you’re a big “soda junkie” – go slow. But I promise, after a while you really won’t miss them that much.
What Do You Crave?
I’ve tried the usual methods for handling cravings. You know, just try to wait twenty minutes -it’ll go away if it’s a craving instead of hunger. Or take a walk – really?
Truth is, I usually already know it’s a craving, not hunger. I don’t have too wait twenty minutes. The entire twenty minutes I would just be dwelling on the chocolate. Or the potato chips. Or whatever. I wouldn’t even be able to sit around for twenty minutes. I even tried using a timer, for pete’s sake!
As I have tried to say already, this time is definitely going to be different. I’m calling out the big guns. Here are two alternative methods – hope one works for you.
Method One
I once learned a technique for handling pain. Rather than trying to ignore the pain or try to make it go away, one would connect with the problem and really LOOK at it with one’s mind. What does it look like? Does it have a shape – round, square or amoeba-like? Maybe it’s 3-dimensional – a cube or sphere? Does it have color – a single color or many? Does it move at all or stay in one place? If you keep looking at it, it may change color or shape. Stay on it and note the changes.
I think you get the picture. This method really works wonderfully. After a while, the pain actually goes away.
What does all this have to do with chocolate or potato chip desire? Try this method to handle cravings. Try not to dwell on WHAT you crave, but on the actual FEELING. How does the feeling actually look? Does it have shape, color, size? Does it maybe have texture? Force yourself to look at the feeling.
It won’t like you looking at it, and it will go away – usually for good.
Method Two
I heard this one once and really liked it. This is also a way of dealing with pain.
Picture a big radio knob (okay, so radios don’t have knobs anymore – how about the volume thing-y on your i-pod) and envision the volume setting as if it is a setting for the amount of pain you feel. How loud is the volume? If it’s very loud, you will probably want to turn it down quickly. Instead, turn it down just a little bit. Was it enough? No? Turn it down a little bit more. Keep doing this slowly until the volume is very low.
Many people have had success with this method for pain, and I think it can work for cravings too. It requires a bit of quiet time, though. Just picture the knob, and begin to turn it down. Remember that you are turning the knob down on the FEELING not the “thing that you crave”.
This topic is HOT!
Funny, that as I thought of this topic for today, I happened to receive an e-mail just this morning from e-diets on this very topic. Please feel free to have a look at what they say – you’ll see that it’s really the “same ol’ same ol’”. I, for one, am glad to try something different, even if it’s kind of a play on “same ol’ same ol’”.
What’s Important?
I spent a lot of time thinking about what made for failure in the past, and then thought about what could make the difference this time. What’s important, besides losing weight, of course!
I can’t, just CAN NOT, be hungry. I go bananas and just can’t do it anymore! It also has to be beyond easy. I have issues with that “food the size of a baseball, golf ball, cassette tape (do you even know what that is anymore?) or whatever size the portion should be. Jeez! It’s too much to remember.
So the current plan I have come up with involves means eating a nice Healthy Choice meal – but only those less than 300 calories – twice per day, along with an oatmeal cereal breakfast (because Dr. Oz said
so), and at least two healthy shakes or a yogurt per day. That’s the minimum. I plan to add shakes or yogurt if I feel hungry. Later, I will add fruits and vegetables to the mix.
I’ll save talking about nutrition elements until later. Just know that for now, this is working.
As I am about half way through week two, a piece of me wishes for ice cream – temperatures have been in the nineties. At least once, I have longed for something crunchy. But I got past that.
I understand that it takes about twenty-one days to begin to really form a habit, and up to ninety days to have it mostly down pat. I plan to try to stay the course as much as possible.
Welcome to the Obesity Project
Over the next months (or years!) I will be taking the time to chronicle my latest weight control endeavors.
Like most folks, I have tried everything, just about, and some things twice! About a week ago, I finally tried one more thing. Having recently beendiagnosed and been successfully treated for uterine cancer, I found that I was not eligible for any kind of bariatric surgery, so I asked them what the best options were.
I was recommended to the local Weight Management Center. I gave them a call and arranged to attend an orientation that evening (about a week ago, be the way).
At the meeting, I learned of the HMR meal plan, and learned the reasons that they liked it blah blah blah. It seemed like Jenny Craig, but with a doctor’s blessing.
Now, I never did try Jenny Craig for the same reasons that I would likely not try this plan – too expensive for prepared meals – frozen or otherwise!
We joked around with the idea of eating frozen meals and using them for the basis of our own eating regimen, so this time we’ve decided to try it.
Sorry to say, we started a week ago and I didn’t start blogging immediately.
However — I lost 7.5 pounds in the first week! In my next post, I’ll include the details.